The man is bundle of desire. I say that every human is bundle of desire . Going one step ahead I say that every man and every animal are bundles of desire. A human has a desire and need whereas an animal has only need because man has a heart to think and desire , animals lack of it.
Desire comes from an unconscious mind and need is a outcome of a conscious mind. Need is a result of desire. The sequence is desire...wish...expectation...need. Desire turn into wish which inturn converts into expectation and finaly results into need. Constant desire turn into needs. Desire comes from heart while need is requirement of brain or body. To fulfill the need a biological act is required, may it be a word, gesture, sign, or any act. One bitter truth that one's incarnation or birth is nothing but desire or need of a man and woman or may give any other name or relations.
Every human has desire and need to survive and sustain.It has a lots of dimensions. When an infant comes out from the womb of a mother it requires its first need to breath. Since then he struggles to survive means need to breath. Secondly it needs to get feed. As it groves the need and desire to sustain leads to a series of desires and needs of food, clothes, money, security, family, friends, fame etc etc.
Thus this desire and need can be in two form. One is biological and second is psychological. More or less desire is of psychological in nature may or may not be where as need is of a biological in nature generally. Thousands of years ago Patanjali had defined the desire and need in three forms.
1. Desire to have son,
2 . Desire to have wealth and
3.Desire to have fame.
Every human being struggles to meet the desire and need. Who builds the character, identity or personality? We believe that it is the education, profession, skills, knowledge, ability, capability, parents, teachers, family, friends, society build ones character perspnality or identity but it is wrong.It is the desire and needed to build ones character, personality and identity. So parents or teacher or family or friends should concentrate on desire or need of the childern or students and deal with then accordingly. A criminalogy also suggests that the desire and need which did not fulfill during the childhood or adolensce age constuct a criminal attitude and at certain point of time he or she react to achive the unsatisfied desire or bees if childhood. A poor child desires to have luxury like rich child but cannot get it. This desire will definitely obbssess the child and lead to a misconduct or to act wrongly or does something which he should not do. He may steal money, may cheat someone, may adopt the easier way to be more reach which may land him in trouble,isn't it? This desire and need becomes habit and some times converts onto obsession too.
Look aroud and you will find a group of persons having the same thought or set of mind. Now again think what is thought or same thinking it nothing but desire annd need. The same reflects in your attitude, behaviour, work etc. Criminal likes criminals, singer likes singers and so on. So one should identify a person not by personality or appearance but by ones desire and need which invariably reflect therein. Further, in a same way one can summarise past as a failure or fulfilment of desire or need, present as to strive to achieve and future is planning to achieve. Our morning starts with desire or need and day ends with the same feelings. Many a time we drag ourselves to other who wants to achieve own desire or need and we land in trouble.
This leads to a creation of problems.
In fact desire and need are the mother of all problems. These problems are born by inner and outer force. Inner force means desire and need of self while outer force means desire and wish of others. Think over it and problems you face. Don't you believe that the origin of all problems is nothing but the desire and need of self and others. For example the need to drink water is a need of survival or to sustain.now to drink a water emerge as problem for you. Quantity and quality , how, when, where, why etc are the problems of desire or need to drink water. Or take a history of any war , they are fought or are being fought for nothing but to meet the desire or need, whatever it may be, it may be for the desire or need to revenge, ego, to conquer etc. If lots of life lost in war for the fulfilment of desire or need no one stops or think over it. A simple example, desire to eat nonveg food results in to a death of innocent. Thus every desire and need brings a problem or problems for self as well as for others. In a same way the desire and need of someone others also create problem or problems for them and for you too.
Is our desire or need create a problem for ourself or other? Think over it. The answer is invariably YES. Still we should continue to be the origin of problems for self and other. The answer is NO.So to minimize your problems , first understand and minimize your desire and need .The lesser your desire and need are, the lesser your problems will be. Does it mean that one should not have any desire or need. No. Noone can be without desire and need even otherwise the nature does not permit.So what should be done? One should try for constructive desire or need instead of destructive. Your desire and need should be in a nature of self as well as others upliftment,better life, peace, harmony, development, happiness, health and for the noble cause. The positive, constructive and a noble desire has a great streangth that it can save a life of dying person. If a doctor desires to survive a patient and his desire turn in to an act and if somthing happens wrong then the doctor will face a problem but since the act of desire is noble and for better cause nothing will happens, god will take care of him. So whatever the acts are committed in pursuance of desire, nothing to worry, keep a faith in god, leave for it, he will take care rest of the thing.
Solutions of problems
-Identify the person by his or her desire or need
-Identify the the nature of desire or need(constructive or destructive)
-Lesser desire and need
-Be happy with whatever you have
-Solve the problem don't allow them to hang over you (because every problem has it solution).
These are the solution of problems created by your own desire and need.
One more thing to add is constant hang over and stretch of any problems turn in to stress.Stress is nothing but obsession of problems.
How to solve the problems created by other due to their desire and need.
-Identify the desire and need of others
-Neglect the destructive one
-You will come a cross four type of people.
If someone desires to or needs to harm or damage someone else don't react over it. Why? See desire or need force a person to act and act is noting but karma and each karma has its own result . Whatever one acts has to see or meet its end result i.e. karma.
The entire world runs on two wheels of desire and need whatsoever it may be good. bad or ugly. Unsatisfied desire or need leads to frustration, depression, develop negativity and become a reason of anger, arrogance, ego etc. On other hand if some one fails to satisfy your desire, again it may lead to anger, frustration, depression, negativity etc.
Raise your desire, wish, confidence to that level that result may force god to be written in your favour.
Are our desire or wish or need may cause damage to our children's future.
Many times an individual compromises or surrenders and suppresses one genuine or noble desire and need under the pressure of feelings or emotions. Our sense prevents us from doing any act in pursuance of desire or need considering that this may hurt others feeling or emotions. We crush our desire and need because we care for others who don't care for us rather exploit us under the grab of emotions, feelings, love, affections. They can be parents, spouse, seniors, family and so called friends. Which also leads to a frustration, depression, and life becomes burden and resulted in to unhappy life and becomes like machine. This is the Hippocratic approach of others. If somebody prevent you from your desire or need , will you consider them as a family , as a friend, as a spouse, as a parent. No. They are nothing leas then a killer. They spoil the relationship. Relationship remains as only the name or formality.
Become a judge of your own and decide what to do. Living a life on others mercy by killing own desire or need and become an unhappy person or to be and remain happy with setting a side all emotional blackmailing to live happy life with your desire or needs whatsoever it may be.
Just take care, whatever your desire and needs are should be for survival and to sustain. Desire and needs are never ending processes. There are series of desires and needs which come ahead after fulfilment of one desire. Do we make injustice or seized some others rights while trying to procure our desire? Often Yes. A simple example , to satisfy your need or desire of hunger , you eat the food which is for others or you eat yours food as well as derives some more food of others. To satisfy your need of hunger will definitely give you pleasure but it will be for a shorter time. It will not last long. But if you remain a little hungry and shares your food with the others and satisfy others desire or need of food , this will give you a more happiness and will be for a longer period. To do this a little thinking is require that whether we harm to others to satisfy our need or helpful by a positive and constructive understanding. The world is full of seizers and not the sacrifices.